That was so comprehensive Jess. I was wondering if there are refuges for women where you live? There are in Australia and yet for all the reasons you mentioned, and others, often they are not accessed. I have four daughters and I am sure one is in a coercive relationship. In Australia they call it living underground and say only 20% of domestic abuse is reported.
Thank you. And yes, there are shelters and programs and all the stuff…. But just because help is available doesn’t equate out to mean it is safe to try and access.
In my situation, I was not allowed out of his sight for long and toward the end, he didn’t let me keep my phone on me, especially if I was going to be by myself - so no phone in the bathroom. He kept me from accessing news or any social content unless he was the one flipping through it while letting me watch. I had a very rude awakening to just how much i had missed going on in the world when I logged into YouTube on my own for the first time in well over a year.
When I ended up in the shelter, it took me five days to decide to reconnect with my mom after years of ostracizing her out of my life at his urgings. As we’ve talked through so much now, one important conversation has been about what she could have done differently to help me - and it goes back many, many years.
If your daughter is in a coercively controlling relationship, just keep being there for her as much as you possibly can, and do your best to not say negative things about her partner that could be used as a wedge to try and get her to hate you.
Thank you Jess. What you went through sounds terrible. I am so glad you made it out. And thank you for the advice you gave me for my daughter.
That was so comprehensive Jess. I was wondering if there are refuges for women where you live? There are in Australia and yet for all the reasons you mentioned, and others, often they are not accessed. I have four daughters and I am sure one is in a coercive relationship. In Australia they call it living underground and say only 20% of domestic abuse is reported.
Thank you. And yes, there are shelters and programs and all the stuff…. But just because help is available doesn’t equate out to mean it is safe to try and access.
In my situation, I was not allowed out of his sight for long and toward the end, he didn’t let me keep my phone on me, especially if I was going to be by myself - so no phone in the bathroom. He kept me from accessing news or any social content unless he was the one flipping through it while letting me watch. I had a very rude awakening to just how much i had missed going on in the world when I logged into YouTube on my own for the first time in well over a year.
When I ended up in the shelter, it took me five days to decide to reconnect with my mom after years of ostracizing her out of my life at his urgings. As we’ve talked through so much now, one important conversation has been about what she could have done differently to help me - and it goes back many, many years.
If your daughter is in a coercively controlling relationship, just keep being there for her as much as you possibly can, and do your best to not say negative things about her partner that could be used as a wedge to try and get her to hate you.